Alot of people are saying America today do not care about marrage and will have sex without love but, Valintine day brings back the love in romance. Expectations wasnt the same for love in marrage as it was in the 1800's.
marriage was more of an arrangement than a companionship. Valentine was really granted a holiday by the Roman Catholic to limit of sexual passion.
Churches even went far as to malign marriage and encourage women to stay celibate. not untill 100 years later, after the late 17th century, people started to agree that Valentine day was based on love and marriage. Present day the high expections of marriage often end in disaters.
Although divorce was a higher rate , marriage has improved. Bak then violence, adultery, and day-to-day misery was expected in marriage.
Now marriage is more fullfilling. Marriage is suppose to be about love and passion not an arrangement. I was wshocked to know that Valentine was not about romance and that marriage was frowned upon.
Now and days being un married without love is on the same scale as sex without marriage. Often times people do enter surreal marriages that lead into disapointments. My aunt was married four times and they all ended with pain and a child.
I expect to marry one day and the key to marriage is love, trust, PASSION, communication and loyalty. I dont want to enter a marriage on a dream or naive but with copromise and communication.
I dont want my marriage to end in divorce i want to have a marriage that last until death do us apart.
Good post.
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